In a recent post, I argued that labels can create a sense of community — and are therefore beneficial in some ways. Stereotypes, on the other hand, are problematic, because they restrict how we behave (girls have to be feminine, boys must like sports, etc.).
I’m a firm believer in questioning my opinions on a regular basis — and re-thinking them, if need be. The following is a quote from writer and philosopher Jiddu Krishnamurti, who most definitely disagrees with me on labels:
Good news, everyone! My second guest post has just gone live. Check it out on Psych Perspectives. 🙂
Today’s post is a short musing on singer Daya’s recent song, “Sit Still, Look Pretty.” It is also the first installment in a new series called “Ruminations” that I’m starting here at But Why? to foster conversation and musings about songs, books, quotes, etc. Check it out:
1:1000 is a unique journal that pairs stories and essay with images — a new turn on the cliché “A picture is worth a thousand words.” And the most exciting part? As of today, my newest short fiction piece about gender is available with them — “The Power of Water” — paired with Kayla King’s gorgeous river shot. Woohoo!
You can check it out here. Let’s show 1:1000 some love! 🙂
I’ve always loved comic books. In my early teens, I read only manga (a.k.a. Japanese comic books). Recently, I’ve spent a lot of time rereading and reviewing them on Goodreads, and I’ve noticed a weird trend.
It sucks to be a woman in shonen manga.
“Shonen” is a genre of Japanese comic books with plots such as sports, sci-fi, fantasy, action/adventure, etc., featuring male leads. It’s usually marketed to boys, much like the US’s action genre.
So what’s the issue? Having a male lead isn’t a problem, though ideally, the spread between male and female leads in action series should be more even.
The trouble is that female characters get sidelined. Continue reading
“Is this real life? Is it just fantasy?”
This has been one of those weeks that can’t possibly be real. Queen, it must be fantasy.
Yesterday, I found out that Nanoism accepted my twitter fiction. Today, MTV accepted my essay on overcoming gender stereotypes, “Confessions from an Ex-Sexist.”
Woohoo! What an awesome start to the week (and to April).
Check out my short article here. Let’s show MTV some love 🙂
As its title suggests, this post contains swearing and is Not Safe For Work. Consider this your warning 🙂
There are two employees. One is a highly-driven corporate executive, John Doe. Things get done, but John loads the pressure on his employees. Behind his back, they call him things like “prick” and “asshole.”
The other is also a determined executive: Jane. She shares many qualities with John, with one key difference: Jane’s employees call her a bitch. Continue reading
I had originally planned to post about my recent ballroom competition, but the discussion spurred by a public Facebook status prompted me to change my line-up.
Let’s talk about gender neutrality.
The Facebook status links to a click-bait article praising Target for creating gender neutral bedding for kids. I have nothing against gender neutral items like the gray, plush octopus in the article’s photo. Rock your style! Kids should choose their bedding based on their individual interests, not their gender. I fully support that.
The article, though, makes me question the concept of gender neutral products. What, exactly, is the purpose of these items? Do they serve as a safe, androgynous choice for kids with a burgeoning interest in the “wrong” gender’s products? Or, as a girl with masculine interests, am I supposed to choose the more-acceptable, gender neutral bedding over the boys’ bedding? Does this new line of bedspreads create a third option in which there are “girl”, “boy”, and “neutral” comforters?
Shouldn’t bedding just be bedding? Continue reading