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Let’s talk about sexism.
It sounds simple: there are boys and there are girls, and everyone should be treated equally. Telling women they should have children instead of work? Sexist. Telling men they shouldn’t show emotion or cry – ever? Also sexist. And pressuring girls to wear pink and boys to wear blue? See previous statements.
No one wants to admit that they might be sexist, but maybe we, as a society, need to talk about. I confess – I’m a recovering sexist.
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If I had to summarize my personality in one word, I’d choose “tomboy.” In high school, I played competitive tennis. In college, I bought a…
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But Why? 
Personally I disagree. Sexism by definition is prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination AGAINST a person based on sex. If you actively campaign for a certain stereotype (e.g. girls wear pink boys wear blue) you aren’t sexist, you’re simply expressing your opinion which is fine and the right of every person on earth. On the other hand if you criticize and attack anyone who doesn’t SHARE your opinion or holds a different one THEN you just became sexist. Like me, I personally don’t care if my wife wanted to stay home or not, she is her own person and I don’t own her, she can do what she wants. Now I may find it more ATTRACTIVE if she knows how to cook/clean, or dresses a certain way, that’s my business. It is NOT my business to force that on her.
Something I DO think is an issue in society(again, purely my opinion) is the political correct bullshit that is going on which oftentimes includes the (radical side of) the feminist movement and labeling people’s honest opinions as sexist when they’ve not forced it on anyone. No matter how hard people may want to deny, there are two energies, yin and yang. Male and female will NEVER be the same and neither will their behaviors or desires.
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Right — the problem comes when people are expected/pressured into doing what they are “supposed” to do, instead of what is best for them, and that’s exactly the trouble! As a high school student, I had very rigid, very stereotypical views. It was sexist of me to assume that girls were stupid because they liked make-up — that’s DEFINITELY prejudice, and that’s what my article is all about: learning that stereotypes aren’t true for everyone and that no one should be forced to wear/act/do something specific because of their gender. 🙂
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No they should never be forced, but they should ALWAYS be encouraged. If a woman WANTS to be a stay at home mom then support her, and if she wants to go to space support her just the same. If a man wants to be masculine and play sports and do masculine things support it, let him be him. But support him the same if he doesn’t.
For me for example, you can bet I’ll encourage my daughter to be a lady, to like feminine things, and follow traditional and natural rules BUT I will not force them on her. Why would I tell her to wear a dress if she doesn’t want to? However I won’t delude her into thinking she looks more attractive (to most men or to me) dressing as a tomboy as opposed to a lady. The same would go for a son. I will teach him manly skills, following traditional and natural rules but will not force them on him. But if he wants to break down and be emotional in a time where action is needed he’s going to be told to man up or get out.
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In many ways, I think it depends on personality — there are people who think tomboys ARE more attractive than feminine girls, and there’s nothing wrong with feeling that way (or with disagreeing!). That’s the beauty of being human: we each have our own likes and dislikes that go along with our personalities. Personally, I’ve found that personality is a better way to understand people than gender: tomboyish girls, feminine men, etc. are better understood by examining their personalities instead of through the lens of gender, whether the topic is an inability to act or what’s best to wear.
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Deep down we all know, we stand as one without the judgemental barriers. But ‘labels’ and ‘this-is-how-its-meant-to-go’ are what society feeds us. We were grown with this being choked down our throats even if it was wrong. We can be who we want to be without these impositions. Respect the ones who deserve to be respected, gender unbiased. Be real and recover.
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Gender unbiased — good phrase 🙂 Be who you want to be, not who gender tells you to be. Rock on!
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